Does your husband want you to stay at home? or maybe you don’t want to go to work? The struggle is real. Read on to know why I am finally happy about being a stay at home wife.
Let’s start here first. How do you introduce yourself?
This may be simple for most of you. I am (insert profession) or I am Y’s daughter, I’m Z’s wife or X’s mom. It’s just that simple right? Depending on the person or the occasion you tell them who you are.
After not working for a couple of years this became the hardest part of a conversation for me. I cannot engage in long conversations about my profession, career goals or office politics. That is when I realised that I was boiling down my life to my education and profession.
Well, this realisation didn’t come quick nor was it easy to accept.
I wrestled with this decision for more than a year and at times, it still does rear its ugly head!
How Do You See Yourself?
I’m not against identifying yourself in any of those ways I mentioned earlier. It’s all good, but the real question here is where are you drawing your identity from?
Is it your career?
Well, the good news is that no one can answer that question for you except yourself.
As believers, we all have dealt with the question of what is my purpose here in this world. But have you asked yourself what your identity is? We even see Jesus Christ asking his disciples this question Matthew 16:15. The Lord Jesus wanted to know if his disciples knew His true identity.
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That’s a bold statement, don’t you think? So let me break it down for you.
Before we begin I’m hoping that we all agree that God knew exactly what he was doing when he created you and me, as women. I personally don’t believe in a man trapped in a woman’s body or vice-versa. So now let’s go right back to creation, the day our mother was formed.
Genesis 2:20 “… but for Adam, no suitable helper was found.” There’s your first clue!
We here to be our husband’s helpmate.
We here to serve them and encourage them just like the Holy Spirit does. So does that mean you have to do all the cooking, cleaning and the laundry? Maybe, maybe not. As I mentioned earlier, no one can answer these questions better than yourself.
My favorite example of a person who knew her identity would be Mary, the mother of Jesus. She doesn’t invoke her mommy privileges in the wedding at Cana (John 2: 3-4).
Instead of reminding Jesus that she was his mother and He had to listen to her, we see Mary instructing the servants to do whatever Jesus commands. She recognised that this son of hers was her Saviour too. He was the Lord and Master of her life and she was only his earthly mother.
A blog about Christian women is incomplete without the mention of the Proverbs 31 woman!
The Proverbs 31 woman juggles the roles of a wife, mother and a business woman. Look at the way she prioritises her responsibilities:
- First, she takes care of the needs of her husband,
- Then her children
- And the community she lives in.
While this may seem like a daunting To-Do list that can’t be possibly achieved, it really is not! The Life Application Study Bible says,
“the woman described here has outstanding abilities. Her family’s social position is high. In fact, she may not be one woman at all – she may be a composite portrait of ideal womanhood. Do not see her as a model to imitate in every detail; your days are not long enough to do everything she does! See her instead as an inspiration to be all you can be. We can’t be just like her, but we can learn from her industry, integrity, and resourcefulness!”
I am not an advocate of women staying at home or having careers. In fact, some of the women I admire are working mothers. It’s amazing how they balance managing their homes and jobs and at the same time living a life in Christ. Ephesians 4:1&2.
Choosing to stay at home for your family can be a tough choice. Wives and mothers choose to stay at home for all kinds of reasons. Especially if you have been working for a long time. Each person’s story is different from the other. So if you have to ask me, yes I am content right now staying at home. Why? Because I know that God wants this for my life now.
That’s the best part about being a believer! We have a Father who is bigger than our “problems”.
Have you heard of Katherine Von Bora? Yes? No? Have you heard of Martin Luther? Yes! So Katherine Von Bora was Martin Luther’s devoted wife. Here is an excerpt about her from the book ‘50 People Every Christian Should Know’.
‘Luther wisely permitted his wife to be in charge of the management of the home. To begin with, he was far too
busy to worry about such things, and, he had to admit, she did a far better job than he could do. Katherine not only cared for him and the household, but she ministered to the needs of people all over Wittenberg. She listened to their problems, gave them care and medicine in their sicknesses, counselled them in their sorrows, and advised them in their business affairs. The town recognised that the Luther household was an exemplary Christian home, and much of that success was due to Katherine.’
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